The Top 3 Ways That a New Age Wife Can Destroy Her Marriage

(Disclaimer: This article is not my personal speculation, rather my takeaway compilation from hearing real couples tell their story.)

There’s a “snake in the grass” lurking within the marriages of couples that have a new age practitioner wife, and its venom is rampant…

Earth goddesses, witches, yogis, psychics, reiki masters, somatic healers, energy workers, and divinators, all have one loud personality trait that is toxic to everyone they touch— ascension arrogance. Oh, yes. It’s real and it’s ruining marriages.

Now, explaining the consequences of the egotistical new age “self-worship” to a woman who bought her ascension starter pack from this worlds “self-love” bin is not easy. Why?

Because she is blind to herself.

She has turned her back on her pure, authentic godly purpose from our Creator and replaced it with cheap carnival tricks and worldly trinkets.

She has traded her divine inheritance to the Kingdom of Heaven which was sealed in the royal blood of Christ, in exchange for lies promising her power, beauty, and earthly abundance.

She walks through weeds of poison, chained to the demons that drag her along, clutching her idols to her heart, inhaling the fragrance of death as she… “ascends.”

Queen, baddie, witch, boss babe, master, healer, goddess. These women traded their birth title, “Daughter of the King,” for worldly titles that mean nothing in God’s Kingdom, and they can’t even see it. This is not elevation. This is what “making a deal with the devil” looks like.

So, how does a new age wife negatively impact her marriage? After hearing many former new age couple testimonies, here are the top 3 ways:

One: Missing in Action

Ascension arrogance is marked by the self-perception that you are ever-evolving; constantly reaching new heights of ritualistic englightenment, unlocking mystical intelligence, and mastering spiritual powers… but where is the husband during all this? Sitting on the side lines, waiting for his wife to come down from the ethers to… have dinner with him. Watch a movie with him. Go for a walk with him. Be PRESENT with him in the 3D world.

In the accounts, the new age wife viewed herself as this beautiful, ascended feminine, yet the husband saw her as MIA from the relationship; not “wifing” at all, really. This is wild because the new age archetype of the divine feminine is described as embodying and projecting a supportive, nurturing, loving energy, but husbands described their wives as not really involved in the relationship. Just… not present.

The men reported that, over time, they felt ignored, unimportant, and some said “useless” to her. Which, according to science, vasopressin—aka the male bonding hormone—is released when he is needed in a pro-active, problem solving, get-things-done role. So, the quickest way that a man emotionally checks out of a relationship is when his presence feels unnecessary.

Outcome —> Because she wasn’t present, neither was he.

Two: Inadequacy

Aside from the sheer amount of time and energy that new age women devote to their spiritual practices, while other responsibilities get pushed to the side, many of them are not married to a new age spiritualist husband. In other words, the men simply weren’t on the same “ascension journey,” as it’s called. New age refers to this kind of issue as a “spiritual misalignment,” yet these couples were already married, so now what?

While many couples can have major personal differences such as their views on religion, politics, or certain lifestyle choices, the new age wife saw herself as constantly ascending into higher levels of consciousness, which led to seeing her “basic Bob” husband as less than or beneath her. The women felt like the men weren’t capable of understanding or fulfilling their wants and needs. The men reported that, over time, this misalignment led to feelings of inadequacy, intellectual inferiority, and never feeling good enough for her.

Outcome —> As the misalignment deepened, couples began to drift apart and infidelity occurred in some cases.

Three: Pressure to Change

A new age woman who views herself as always ascending doesn’t really have time to wait for anyone who’s not “leveling up” with her. Constant ascension is a huge staple of new age spirituality, and when others in your life aren’t evolving as fast as you, there’s no grace period. New age encourages you to cut out anyone who’s “holding you back” from “stepping into your power.” This mentality is a recipe for marital separation or divorce.

(Note: it can also lead to cutting off valuable connections with friends and family, which isn’t always necessary but, yet again, highly encouraged in new age thought.)

The men reported that this immense pressure to evolve as she evolved felt like a threat of losing her and their marriage. The pressure created feelings of failure and shame, leading them to make fear-based changes, which they said ultimately still felt were never “enough” for her.

Outcome —> Over time, resentment and anger began to plague the relationship, and some couples ended up divorced.

On Godly Marriage:

Ladies, Wives, Daughters of the Most High God… I know you have at least heard of Proverbs 31 and the story of our creation. I encourage you to read God’s description of who we are and who He intended for us to be. There is more beauty, power, and love in that storyline than in any fiction that this world offers us. I know you aren’t falling for these empty female empowerment gimmicks… you are worth so much more!

In one powerful couple testimony, the new age wife denounced her practices and began a journey to build a relationship with Jesus. She eventually found freedom in Christ and is now speaking out on the dangers of new age practices. Her husband wasn’t involved with any spirituality at the time, but eventually came to know Jesus too. How did he describe his own transformation?

“It happened naturally… I watched everything she was doing and saying… I watched how she changed in positive ways. She stopped drinking, stopped swearing, stopped some really bad habits. She was happy and healthy. She never pressured me to become a Christian because a relationship with God has to be a choice a person makes on their own. It just happened naturally in time for me.”

This is so wonderful because the Bible addresses unequally yoked marriages (Christian “spiritual misalignment”) where the wife is a believer and the husband is not, and what to do in this case. The verse below is God’s definition of what it means to embody the divine feminine essence of His design for wives:

“Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word, but by the conduct of their wives.”— 1 Peter 3:1 ESV

Translation —> The unbelieving husband may come to know God by simply observing the lifestyle, habits, and behaviors of a godly wife; no words needed! No pressure. No fear. No shame. Just a beautiful, righteous example of love. Amen!

On False Women Prophets:

What does the Bible say about this? God’s judgement is intense because ANY form of spiritual guidance that is false leads people astray. It’s one thing to be lost ourselves, but leading others into deception has worse consequences:

“Now, son of man, speak out against the women who prophesy from their own imaginations. This is what the Sovereign Lord says: What sorrow awaits you women who are ensnaring the souls of my people, young and old alike. You tie magic charms on their wrists and furnish them with magic veils. Do you think you can trap others without bringing destruction on yourselves? You bring shame on me among my people for a few handfuls of barley or a piece of bread. By lying to my people who love to listen to lies, you kill those who should not die, and you promise life to those who should not live.” —Ezekiel 13:17-19 NLT

Please take some time to meditate and reflect on what you have read here. I pray for God to intervene in the suffering marriages of those who are involved in new age spirituality, and reveal a loving course correction for the relationship. I ask this in Jesus’ name, Amen.

Written by Michelle Jean